How To See Your Birthday In A New Light.

It’s my birthday on Sunday.

I keep telling myself to “count your blessings, not your candles.”

And while I do have tons of blessings, I also have lots of mixed feelings about aging.

In fact, I’ve been rather stuck in the muck about it lately.

But fortunately, I received an early birthday gift today.

This uplifting download of divine wisdom about aging that came through my writing: 

Dear One,

You wear this number as if it were an imprint from Auschwitz.

Your age is not a curse. It is not something to be ashamed of. 

It is an honor.

An opportunity to show the world that when you cultivate a garden over time, the blossoms are more fragrant. And the roots are more stable.

This is what you need to celebrate.

Another year is not a sentence that you must bear. It is a magical ring on the Tree of Life.

When you look in the mirror, you find that thing that is not perfect. Then you compare it to someone in a magazine’s retouched life.,


When you look in the mirror you must see your light, your beauty, and your worth.

When the critical mind zeroes in on a flaw, you must bellow from the depths of your soul: “STOP.”

And find what is beautiful about your face, your body and your age.

You must deprogram the undermining belief in your culture that a nubile young maiden is worth more than a wise, ageless woman in all her glory and wisdom,

You must stop conspiring against yourself, your age and all woman- kind.

You must stop the cruelty, the diminishing and the hiding.

Celebrate the gift of who you are. At this time. On this day.

Happy Worth Day.

Some people call this kind of divine wisdom “channeling.” I call it Flight Instruction.”

I’m so grateful for this higher perspective and intend to re-read this daily to reprogram my belittling brain.

(If you’d like some personalized Flight Instruction to help get unstuck from your muck, email me and I’ll tell you more about it.)

In the meantime, thank you for being a treasured flying companion on this fascinating (and sometimes turbulent) journey called Life. You are such a gift to me.

Oh, and you know what I’d love for my birthday?

For you to scroll down to the  “comment section” and share how you feel about your Worth Day.

With soaring gratitude,



  • Bonnie  

    Happy Worth Day! Happy birthday! You are magical!

  • Kelli  

    your wisdom overwhelms me… Thank you for putting perspective to this process.
    Most of all, Happy Birthday!

    • Wendi Knox  

      Thank you, Kelli! I just answered Holly’s comment and said maybe the two of you could come up to Ojai for Dragonfly Tea one day.
      You are such a light in my life. And always remind me while I dig deep with this stuff. Much love and gratitude, Wendi

  • Colleen  

    Happy Worth Day! Everyday is your Worth Day, really! Love your blog.

    • Wendi Knox  

      Dear Colleen, I love that you love it. That is worth a lot to me :))))

  • Holly  

    My birthday was last Sunday and I turned 60! I had been very depressed about that number and started feeling like I had so little time left to “live the life I was meant to live”. I was actually depressed. My thinking changed when I started paying attention to the other people around me. I have four friends right now going through Chemotherapy and all are much younger than me. I have friends who are no longer here and friends who are going through ugly divorces or tough challenges with their grown children. I realized how “lucky” I am to still be here,to be healthy, to have a wonderful husband and son and to be able to celebrate my birthday with my 88 year old mother. I am blessed and am grateful and especially thankful for the amazing friends, like you, who inspire me to be the person I was meant to be.
    Happy Worth Day Wendi Knox, you are a true blessing. Holly

    • Wendi Knox  

      Dear Holly, You have a gift for rising out of the muck with gratitude. And that will help you find the light on even the darkest night.
      That is remarkable about your Mom. I really adore you, your wisdom and perspective. Maybe you and Kellie could come visit me in Ojai sometime for tea
      or something….Sending so much love xoxo And Happy Belated Bday, my dragonfly friend.

      • Holly  

        I would love to come to Ojai to see you and I am sure Kelli would too. Sounds wonderful.

  • Linda Sher Salzman  

    Dear Wendy,

    There is a beauty in getting older. There is a putting things into perspective, a new appreciation for what one has, and the wisdom that only time and experience can gather. I remember the ominous feeling of turning 60, an age that I thought of as the gateway to “Old Age”. I didn’t like it. Seventy was difficult too. But now, at 75, I feel as if I see the world in a different and perhaps better way, a more accepting way. While it is difficult to accept the loss of friends and various illnesses, what strikes me most at this time is that the days go too fast and while I am going about my business the sudden and surprise thought of my age and the limited time ahead is daunting. It comes as a shock each time. Somehow, I feel myself accepting it. I feel the urge to do so many things before my days are over. It is not really a bad thing, this age, if one can maintain adequate health.

    As for you, your beauty is in that large and beautiful aura that surrounds you always. I cannot help but feel love for you. Age may diminish only the attention one was once used to receiving as a pretty young woman, which if we really think about it, is a very shallow reward. You, as you are, affect people in a wonderful way, people like me.

    Happy Birthday, dear Wendy. Enjoy who you are.


  • Jacqueline Druz  

    Thanks Wendy I needed that
    My wings were getting a little rusty
    Back on my flight path again.
    Let’s go .

    • Wendi Knox  

      Oh Jackie… wonderful to hear from you. I just found this now—quite a bit late….but so appreciated.
      We all need help trusting in ourselves and getting back on our path. Your note just did that for me.
      Sending much love,

  • Kathleen  

    I want to wish you a happy birthday. You are a beautiful source of light for many of us. I have been celebrating my days by filling them with good thoughts and good deeds. The more I do this, the more lovely I appear to myself. My sister spent $30,000 on a face lift, but I see very little difference In the way she looks, because there is no change in the love she spreads.

    Keep sharing your honest and sincere thoughts. It makes us relate and think.

    • Wendi Knox  

      Dear Kathleen,
      I just found this….rather late. But one the other time, the timing couldn’t be better. I just sent out 30 new paintings to have scanned for a book I am creating. And woke up this morning with fears and self-doubt. If my book touches just one person like you, it is totally worth it. Thank you for reminding me why I am here and why I dig down so far into the muck to share the magic. Your sharing here means the world to me. Everything you said about me, I feel about you.
      With big hugs and soaring gratitude,

  • Paula  

    Love this Wendi..p

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